If we don’t fix Can Opener Deficit Disorder, then we have the perfect excuse not to try a new way and we may hurt ourselves, instead. As a result we may very well miss joy beyond mere survival. That, my friends, is a rut, an excuse, a bowl of leftovers from a poorly set children’s table, a rut lined with excuses…
Why try hard?
What’s the point.
My friends, we were made for so much more.
If, at the age of thirty I believed I was worthwhile, I would have also have believed I deserved a better can opener. The same would have been true at the age of seven, but the idea of worthiness was an impossibility given the circumstance. For some of us who survived to adulthood this paradigm runs like a deep fault line beneath the thin veneer of our grown-up lives. By the time we’ve grown up we are afraid of what lies beneath.
I’m gonna give up
We may have heard, “You can’t” or “You’ll never” or “Get your head out of the clouds” or “You’re too sensitive.” Or, my favorite: “Why do you make things so difficult for me?”
I still struggle once in a while with worthiness, purpose, joy, happiness, or fulfillment so, my point is this: when those of us who come from extreme difficulty struggle from time to time, we may now have access to proper tools with which to open things up–for instance, a good adviser, coach, or counselor, someone skilled at help you “open up the can.” Or…an actual can opener.
I, for one, am willing to try for a better way to open up that can. Because I believe, inside each of us there’s something good, something hopeful, something worth sharing. And I’m not about to waste it.
We’re not wasters.
So let’s go, get a better can opener, and actually use it.
If we don’t purposefully set out to reward ourselves with proper tools, our lives are bleak indeed. Let’s not fail to understand this: that to strive for something good is to strive for reward-worthy living. We are capable of doing so much good in this world. To strive for more means we believe our efforts are worthwhile. It’s not too far a leap from there to conclude that we are worthwhile too.
So we get to the core.
We are worthwhile. We deserve a better can opener.
“You Deserve a Better Can Opener” concludes next week.